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How Your Legacy Changes the World

Posted by Thomas on January 12, 2011

When we think of the word legacy most often family comes to mind. I have expanded that view. Legacy not only encompasses my immediate family but my extended, self-declared family. These folks taught me more perfectly the concepts I’ve embraced as a husband and father.

The Rites of Passage Program is preventive; helping the young man successfully navigate the turbulent waters of adolescence journeying into manhood. When we execute this training correctly the young man creates a legacy that can last generations. It starts early with our concerted efforts. Since I’ve been taught I eagerly pass those teachings on to my son.

My “teachers” have included older men and women at the Miami Gardens Church of Christ. The lessons imparted have corrected and admonished, coached and guided, challenged and encouraged. By them I’m a better father. Empowered, I now have a worthy legacy to leave my son. Embraced, he will be empowered to cultivate a rich heritage with his own family. Regardless how humble or unwholesome your upbringing has been you have the power to choose a different family (when your natural family hasn’t modeled good things). Adopting your expanded family can lead to a positive legacy and heritage. Positive male-lessons must be passed on, through this; life-draining cycles are broken and replaced with life-affirming behaviors.

Following is a short list of concepts worthy to be passed on:

  • Keep God first
  • Fathers stay home
  • Husbands love your wife
  • Fathers don’t provoke your children
  • Parental influence reaches into the future

Simple lessons, yet not taught to our boys. Though not expressly listed in our Rites of Passage Program; empowering young black boys to fully embrace their manhood can lead naturally to embracing these lessons. And when this connection is made positive legacy and heritage germinates and flourishes.

What is your legacy, your family heritage—how did those things develop in you? Share your legacy with the young men around you; doing so changes the world.


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Black Boy Myths Debunked

Posted by Thomas on May 11, 2010

Unfortunately our world categorizes young black men like they all belong in the same bucket. Even when you look for positive headlines about black teens the information isn’t readily accessible. A Rites of Passage Program helps debunk black boy myths by empowering a positive, radiant self-view for the teen.
Not all black males between the ages of 14 and 25 are trafficking or peddling drugs. Not all black male teenagers disrespect their mother. Not all young black men disregard the law. They don’t all carry guns. They aren’t all gang members and gang-bangers. To an extent these truths seem obvious. But that isn’t what we download from contemporary media.

The positive is not accentuated. The low and despicable deeds are. Why—because we (society) expect it. As a young adult (twenty-something) my friends loved their wives and children and honored their parents and worked regular jobs and obeyed the law and… These guys were no different from me. My experience was truth. But we were invisible. Only hoodlums were seen in the media. Nothing has changed. So, it isn’t surprising no positive black teen news readily came up during my recent online search.

The search engine can’t search real life. The search engine doesn’t know me or my son Glynne or his friends. It doesn’t know the half-dozen married men in my life, who I respect and admire for their family commitment. The search engine perpetuates the black boy myths that strangle our collective consciousness (collective now in a world-wide sense).

Fact. Instead of gang-bangers I know worshippers of God. Instead of high school dropouts I know collegians. Instead of criminals I know civic-minded boys. Instead of teen fathers I know young men interested in learning about true fatherhood. Instead of “players” I know young men that respect young women. Instead of homeboys I know global-thinking boys. Instead of societal burdens I know societal benefits.

My reality is reality. We bring into existence what our collective consciousness feeds on; I prefer a diet of positivity. Look into your reality, your family, your neighborhood, your place of worship and instead of seeing a pimp see a President in that black boy who just walked pass.

A Rites of Passage Program helps our young men see themselves as they ought: responsible, contributors to society. Let’s embrace this vision together.

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