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What Does Your Village Look Like

Posted by Thomas on November 27, 2011

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Considering all the effort that went into growing my son into the person he is today it is important to praise the village that helped raise him.

Besides my wife and me (she has filled the mother role in his life since age 6) there are many other adults that have shaped my son’s life. From school staff, to non-profit volunteers, to church members, to business leaders, aunts, cousins, and so many others—which make up the village—have all taken part in raising and guiding him.

So today’s question surrounding a rites of passage ceremony for boys is “What does your village look like?” Take some time and consider thoughtfully the adults that make up your circle—those that regularly interact with your son—your circle inevitably make up the village that assists in training your son.

If you don’t like what you see in the village it is time to change friends and acquaintances. They—your friends, family, circle, THE VILLAGE—will influence your son as he matriculates through his rites of passage program. You want that influence to be positive.

What does your village look like?



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What Me an Empty Nester

Posted by Thomas on November 15, 2011

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An empty nester is a parent whose children have all grown up and left home. Empty nest syndrome is a general feeling of loneliness that parents or guardians may feel when one or more of their children leave home.

When my son was born I was 23 years old. Now that he is a burgeoning young adult in the military I am excited for him and glad. Glad that he is not like I was at 18, aimless.

We had a conversation before he left for boot camp. He was concerned about his place in the world. I told him the adult secret, figuring out where we fit in the big scheme of things is something every conscientious person ponders at some point. I went on to explain that most adults twice his age are still wrestling with that question.

Now that he is out of the house I am asked regularly do I miss him, are we lonely, how has his absence affected us (my wife and I).

The ultimate question has been how does it feel to be an empty-nester?

A what? Me, an empty nester, give me a break.

I don’t feel lonely or sad. I feel invigorated and proud. My son may actually make it into adult manhood without all the life-draining drama I went through.

Friends, that’s cause for celebration. Not sadness.


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