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The Rites of Passage Program and Life Preparation

Posted by Thomas on February 22, 2012

This post has 347 words and will take you less than an estimated 5 minutes to read.

I am at a life stage of transformation. A huge part of me wants to be better. I have verbalized to those in my circle that I’m striving to be my best self. Some days I feel I hit the bull’s-eye, but most days I feel grossly inadequate.

From striving to achieve personal goals in my relationships to professional goals in my career and all points in between, I struggle to get to the next level. Self-development is hard work. Self-education is hard work. Staying motivated to keep on track is a daily challenge. And even more challenging is finding like-minded people who are making the same journey that are willing to motivate and hold me accountable in mine. I am ill-prepared for this stage of life and wonder if I’ll make it to the other side whole and thriving instead of merely surviving.

This transformation period makes me consider the rites of passage program for boys and the resources I’ve culled on this blog for parents, adults, mentors, and teachers. As we impact the lives of boys helping them to successfully enter responsible adulthood what other lessons do they need to learn from us—the caring adults in their lives? Should a rites of passage program contain a component on mid-life transformation? Should it discuss career changes? Should it walk young men through a process to discover their passion?

I feel if I had certain discussions as a young man and certain guidance, maybe my current transformation would not seem so weighty. But, who knows? There is no time machine to pop inside and see. The present is what we all have to work with. We must all forget about the past, not dwell on the future, and focus intentionally on the present. In preparing for life, whether teaching our sons or ourselves, not every nuance of our existence can be handled beforehand. The things we learn via our living offer the fuel for our living. If we are good students that are willing and eager to learn, what more can we ask of ourselves?


“The purpose of life, after all, is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experiences,” (Eleanor Roosevelt)


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Teach Simple Beauty in Your Rites of Passage Program

Posted by Thomas on February 6, 2012

This post has 265 words and will take you less than 3 ½ minutes to read. 

As adults we are often bogged down with obligation. We busy ourselves with the hustle and bustle of life often to a detriment. Our bodies compound stress resulting in headaches and back pain. We stay up late at night working on projects of all sorts. Then arise early to start our rat-race cycle all over again.

Then something magical happens when children and babies enter our space. Their magic infects us. Even for the briefest of moments we stop and take in the simple beauty of a child’s world. A new mom holding her new baby girl (like yesterday in worship service) caused a smile to break across every adult’s face that entered the baby’s view. A simple beauty, her smile.

When a kid is distracted by the flight path of a nearby butterfly, a simple beauty. When a child laughs and walks after a duck in a park, a simple beauty. The laughter and playfulness of children, pure, innocent, filled with fun and a carefree spirit, a simple beauty.

As we raise our sons to be men in our rites of passage programs let’s not forget to also teach them the importance of drinking in the simple beauties life delivers to our doorstep every day; if only we are open to accept the delivery.

Simple beauties surround us daily. Today, stop. Today, drink them in. Today do not allow your adult brain to cause you to miss the magic of your life.


(Below are some simple beauties. Artwork on regular display in the city of Coral Springs Florida. Every day magic and fun!)

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