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Proud Village and Prouder Parents

Posted by Thomas on December 23, 2011

We picked up my son Glynne from the airport late last night. It is hard to explain how good it felt to put my arms around him after his return from the United States Coast Guard boot camp training and hold him tightly. We talked until 2 A.M. As my wife and I sat and listened I beamed inside. Proud that he is not idle. Proud that he has direction. Proud that he pushed himself and came out on the other side successfully. Proud that my son continues his journey into responsible male adulthood. As he shared with us I saw the years of effort, love, and support by so many manifested before my eyes. I am humbled to no end. And I thank The Village.



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The Formalization of Your Village

Posted by Thomas on December 16, 2011

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When it comes to a rites of passage program for boys a key component needed to execute the program and final ceremony is the child’s village. As parents our circle of family and friends makes up that village as I wrote about in What Does Your Village Look Like.

For a moment let’s step outside the confines of a rites of passage program into manhood and speak in simple parenting terms. Whoever we as parents associate with while we are rearing our children those people will influence our children (as much or as little as we allow consciously). Thus it behooves us (parents) to be extremely mindful of the people we allow into our lives. “What is that person’s character and how will it impact me and my children?” is a good starting question.

No parent raises a healthy well-adjusted son or daughter alone. We all need the guidance, support, and encouragement of other parents during our journey. Beyond the support from others we need that extended web of family and friends to be just as conscientious as we are about guiding our son successfully into responsible manhood.

The members of your village can come from any sphere of your life. They can be of different heritage and lineage. Village members can have different beliefs and family traditions from your family. The important thing is the village shares your core beliefs surrounding family, love, and support related to raising your son to be his best self.

Mark Morey has an awesome post on his blog about the formalization of his village. It is an inspiring story how we can consciously turn the mundane into the sacred as we support ourselves and other parents along the journey of parenthood resulting in guiding our sons to be their best selves.


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