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Failures as a Father Part 1

Posted by Thomas on February 15, 2012

The Importance of Celebration in our Lives

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Those in my intimate circle inspire me to better celebrate personal achievements, professional achievements, birthdays, anniversaries and the like.

When I was a child my mother did a great job celebrating birthdays with my sisters and I—it was a big deal most years. But, like many things, as I got older I went in my own direction. Now, as an adult male, I’m beginning to recognize more and more this apparent aversion-of-sorts to celebrating. I am the person that doesn’t like to toot his own horn.

The more I think about it the more I understand there has been a part of me that felt unworthy of celebration. In other words, if I achieved something or did something well I felt there was nothing to celebrate because it was never as good as the next person’s achievement. Or there was no need to celebrate because I was simply doing what I was supposed to do.

I have friends that have been very vocal about celebrating successes in my life. I have family members that have expounded on why celebrating birthdays, anniversaries, and other special days is important to them. Because I didn’t emphasize those days as being special for myself I have not been able to fully give those around me what they need in this regard.

My failure as a father is that my son is like me. I did a poor job of celebrating with him and having him see me celebrate with others. Teach your son to celebrate those small and great things in life. It is important for us as individuals and our loved ones.

Peace,

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Proud Village and Prouder Parents

Posted by Thomas on December 23, 2011

We picked up my son Glynne from the airport late last night. It is hard to explain how good it felt to put my arms around him after his return from the United States Coast Guard boot camp training and hold him tightly. We talked until 2 A.M. As my wife and I sat and listened I beamed inside. Proud that he is not idle. Proud that he has direction. Proud that he pushed himself and came out on the other side successfully. Proud that my son continues his journey into responsible male adulthood. As he shared with us I saw the years of effort, love, and support by so many manifested before my eyes. I am humbled to no end. And I thank The Village.

Peace,

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