Boys' Rites of Passage

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Parenting Resources for Fathers

Posted by Thomas on October 30, 2011

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This post has 196 words. 

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Our family successfully created a rites of passage program for our son. Download your free copy of, A Rites of Passage Framework.

In this short, concise eBook I outline key components of the rites of passage program I custom designed to fit our family values and our son. 

A short read I hope, at the least, the eBook gives you concrete ideas you can use immediately as you design your son’s rites of passage program. 

When I first began my blog I visited many other blogs most surrounding the topic of manhood and fatherhood. 

As a way to expand your viewpoint on manhood and fatherhood I invite you to visit these sites from my blog roll. We all have different perspectives on manhood, fatherhood, family and these blog and website owners are no different. But often times we find ourselves having more in common than differences. And we can all learn something from one another. 

Enjoy your exploration of these sites.

African American Dad; Art of Manliness; Black and Married with Kids; Book Dads; Fatherhood; and Dad-o-Matic.

Comment and let me know what other online resources you frequent relating to manhood, fatherhood, parenthood, and family.

Peace,

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How to Guide Your Child to their Excellent Self

Posted by Thomas on October 24, 2011

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This post has 239 words. 

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Parenting is tough. We (parents) want the best for our children. Often times what is best for our children (from our perspective as parents) doesn’t mesh with what our children see as best for themselves. 

These misaligned views can cause friction or out-right blow-outs between parents and young adults.

The magic I’ve used with my own son to ward off such potential confrontations is to remember what I was like as a young adult (teen in the context of this discussion).

If we (parents) can humble ourselves and be honest with our children we can see things from their side of the equation (because we used to be them). Parenting can be tough because we (parents) want to impose or project onto our child our vision of them.

A better space from which to handle our children, I believe, is to expose them to as much as possible (through education, life experiences, interaction with other caring adults, volunteer opportunities, academic opportunities etc.) The point of the constant exposure to many things is to open up the world to them. Through this openness the child discovers something they are passionate about.

Once that passion has been identified it is then up to us (parents) to nurture our child to be their excellent self in that space of passion.

In other words, it’s okay if your son (or daughter for the moms reading) doesn’t turn out to be a mini-me.

Peace,

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