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A People’s Persistence Produce a President

Posted by Thomas on November 6, 2012

GO OUT AND VOTE TODAY IF YOU HAVE NOT DONE SO ALREADY!

I have left this post as my front page because of this election season. Your voice MUST BE HEARD! Election day November 6, 2012.

(Update: This post, I believe, is a testament to the power of guiding our young men. Keep doing what YOU ARE DOING. You can never really tell how far-reaching your efforts will go.)

Black, white, super-rich or working class, male, female; regardless of race or the hemisphere in which we live, our global mind drank its fill of history this week. A people’s persistence put a man, of African ancestry, into the highest political office of the United States of America. A people’s persistence: composed of various heritages, not just African; accomplished this. Like you, I am filled. Like you, many thoughts raced through my mind. My question—as the dust settles from this incredible political and historical whirlwind—what if this half-black half-white boy named Barack: abandoned by his African father, was not embraced by the balance of his family?

Many boys, especially black boys, don’t ever recover from their father’s abandonment. In Barack’s life, another force filled the fracture; white mother, grandfather, grandmother saved a boy’s life; and taught him; and changed a world. Their effort epitomizes the Rites of Passage Program. Saving boys’ lives changes the world for good. Saving boys’ lives rears responsible young adults. Saving boys’ lives produces adult men ready to lead. Saving boys’ lives gives women capable men to marry. Saving boys’ lives gives children a present touchable father. Saving boys’ lives renders examples for other young men to follow; yields aspiration in the hearts of those nearly crushed by “impossibilities”; causes young ladies to say “I’ll marry a man like my father”. Saving boys’ lives unbolts hope’s vault; that hope infects all. Our world has been lifted to unparalleled plateaus, grand levels of togetherness, joy, and deeply profound inspiration. God, again, has shown us all how the life of one boy, when guided and guarded; loved and cherished; admonished and praised; honored and honed, impacts our interconnectedness. One affecting all.

You have one among you, do you not? Your son: nephew, neighbor’s boy, grandson, a friend’s boy, the single mom’s boy within your congregation, the boy in the homeless shelter or in the juvenile program, the boy that looks like you and the boy that doesn’t, the boy that causes you pause and makes you take a deep breath, the boy with the lost look because no one has taught him how to be a man. You know the boy of whom I speak, maybe, like me, he once was you. You see him daily in the mirrors of your home; his reflection sometimes haunting.

You know him and see him. Embrace a Rites of Passage Program saving a boy; who knows, that boy may change the world—President Obama has.

Peace,

(updated 11/6/12)

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How to Guide Your Child to their Excellent Self

Posted by Thomas on October 24, 2011

Before you continue: 

This post has 239 words. 

On average, it will take you less than 3 minutes to read.

Parenting is tough. We (parents) want the best for our children. Often times what is best for our children (from our perspective as parents) doesn’t mesh with what our children see as best for themselves. 

These misaligned views can cause friction or out-right blow-outs between parents and young adults.

The magic I’ve used with my own son to ward off such potential confrontations is to remember what I was like as a young adult (teen in the context of this discussion).

If we (parents) can humble ourselves and be honest with our children we can see things from their side of the equation (because we used to be them). Parenting can be tough because we (parents) want to impose or project onto our child our vision of them.

A better space from which to handle our children, I believe, is to expose them to as much as possible (through education, life experiences, interaction with other caring adults, volunteer opportunities, academic opportunities etc.) The point of the constant exposure to many things is to open up the world to them. Through this openness the child discovers something they are passionate about.

Once that passion has been identified it is then up to us (parents) to nurture our child to be their excellent self in that space of passion.

In other words, it’s okay if your son (or daughter for the moms reading) doesn’t turn out to be a mini-me.

Peace,

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