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Parenting Resources for Fathers

Posted by Thomas on October 30, 2011

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Our family successfully created a rites of passage program for our son. Download your free copy of, A Rites of Passage Framework.

In this short, concise eBook I outline key components of the rites of passage program I custom designed to fit our family values and our son. 

A short read I hope, at the least, the eBook gives you concrete ideas you can use immediately as you design your son’s rites of passage program. 

When I first began my blog I visited many other blogs most surrounding the topic of manhood and fatherhood. 

As a way to expand your viewpoint on manhood and fatherhood I invite you to visit these sites from my blog roll. We all have different perspectives on manhood, fatherhood, family and these blog and website owners are no different. But often times we find ourselves having more in common than differences. And we can all learn something from one another. 

Enjoy your exploration of these sites.

African American Dad; Art of Manliness; Black and Married with Kids; Book Dads; Fatherhood; and Dad-o-Matic.

Comment and let me know what other online resources you frequent relating to manhood, fatherhood, parenthood, and family.

Peace,

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Wholesome Parenthood: Is It Worth It?

Posted by Thomas on January 12, 2011

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Have you ever wondered if your parenting efforts, specifically, your efforts to be a good father are worth it? I mean, we know our children will disappoint us—for we disappointed our parents. Ever feel like throwing in the towel? Because you’re certain your child will bump their head on something foolish, real soon.

I’ve been there. I don’t like the idea of investing in something without the prospect of a decent return on that investment. Sometimes, I see my efforts in fatherhood through those same lenses. It is scary. I’ve said before, that being a parent is hands-down the hardest job I’ve ever had. And often times I wonder if my ranting and raving; and talking and talking and talking, is really making a difference in the life of my now teenage son.

We’ve seen in recent years, families close to us, struggle deeply in dealing with their young adults. And I’m not talking about kids reared in broken homes. These are kids—from families with involved moms and dads—making bad decisions; engaging in frightening behavior.

Is wholesome parenthood, particularly fatherhood, worth it? Why worry ourselves throughout sleepless nights over ungrateful and foolhardy children? (Sigh)

When I feel like this I try hard to remember the hell I put my mom through as a young adult. I try hard to step into the shoes of the young person. I try, despite the difficulties, to see things from the young person’s perspective—remembering where I came from.

When you start feeling down as a parent, second guessing your choices, your rules, the guidelines you’ve laid out for your child—exhale. Look in the mirror and say aloud “It’s worth it. It all will pay off in the end.” Trust that.

Remember, the ups and downs we experience with our children are only for a season. Have faith that you’ve done the best you could with what you had. And yes, from one parent to another, “YES!” it is all worth it. Your child will be a better person for all of your efforts. And that friends, is one of your positive contributions to the world at large.

God bless you!

May the Year of our Lord 2011 be very good to you and your loved ones.

I just finished reading Denzel Washington’s book A Hand to Guide Me. He makes a case for the Boys and Girls Club of America organization. He gives a compelling tale of how his own life was changed by the caring adults at his local club growing up. The remainder of the book is filled with personal testaments from other successful people (and not all are celebrities – which is great). Get the book and be inspired as a parent or a caring adult doing your part to make the world better by positively impacting the life of a child. So, this post could be titled: Wholesome Mentoring: Is It Worth It? You tell me…

Peace!

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