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Positive Black Boy News

Posted by Thomas on January 12, 2011

Despite being reported on in 2010, this article fills me with great hope. Especially now that my son has turned 18. This is his last year of high school (I’m so proud of him I want to shout from the tallest skyscraper!!). He has decided to enter the U.S. Coast Guard after graduation. I’m proud of my son and hopeful for all our sons as we impact their lives for good and they forge a better world for all of us hereafter.

This is black boy news WORTH sharing. I received an email from my sister–she’s a U.S. Air Force veteran and one of the brightest minds I know–sharing this extremely positive news. We are inundated with terribly sad, hopeless, and negative news media about black boys in our neighborhoods and across the country regularly. Take a moment to read this ABC article about Urban Prep Charter Academy in Chicago. Urban Prep celebrates 100% of their graduating class accepted to major 4-year universities. The charter program opened its doors in 2006.

Praise God! Hope still reigns.

Some do the hard work it takes to positively impact the lives of our youth. Two big thumbs up and a virtual high-five to the staff at Urban Prep for living in the trenches and getting it done and to their senior class for seeing the importance of education.

What are you doing in your world to make a difference in boys’ lives? It only takes one person to change the world…why not you?

Urban Prep staff named Person of the Week on ABC.



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How Your Legacy Changes the World

Posted by Thomas on January 12, 2011

When we think of the word legacy most often family comes to mind. I have expanded that view. Legacy not only encompasses my immediate family but my extended, self-declared family. These folks taught me more perfectly the concepts I’ve embraced as a husband and father.

The Rites of Passage Program is preventive; helping the young man successfully navigate the turbulent waters of adolescence journeying into manhood. When we execute this training correctly the young man creates a legacy that can last generations. It starts early with our concerted efforts. Since I’ve been taught I eagerly pass those teachings on to my son.

My “teachers” have included older men and women at the Miami Gardens Church of Christ. The lessons imparted have corrected and admonished, coached and guided, challenged and encouraged. By them I’m a better father. Empowered, I now have a worthy legacy to leave my son. Embraced, he will be empowered to cultivate a rich heritage with his own family. Regardless how humble or unwholesome your upbringing has been you have the power to choose a different family (when your natural family hasn’t modeled good things). Adopting your expanded family can lead to a positive legacy and heritage. Positive male-lessons must be passed on, through this; life-draining cycles are broken and replaced with life-affirming behaviors.

Following is a short list of concepts worthy to be passed on:

  • Keep God first
  • Fathers stay home
  • Husbands love your wife
  • Fathers don’t provoke your children
  • Parental influence reaches into the future

Simple lessons, yet not taught to our boys. Though not expressly listed in our Rites of Passage Program; empowering young black boys to fully embrace their manhood can lead naturally to embracing these lessons. And when this connection is made positive legacy and heritage germinates and flourishes.

What is your legacy, your family heritage—how did those things develop in you? Share your legacy with the young men around you; doing so changes the world.

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