Boys' Rites of Passage

Our Sons' Futures

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Parenting Resources for Fathers

Posted by Thomas on October 30, 2011

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Our family successfully created a rites of passage program for our son. Download your free copy of, A Rites of Passage Framework.

In this short, concise eBook I outline key components of the rites of passage program I custom designed to fit our family values and our son. 

A short read I hope, at the least, the eBook gives you concrete ideas you can use immediately as you design your son’s rites of passage program. 

When I first began my blog I visited many other blogs most surrounding the topic of manhood and fatherhood. 

As a way to expand your viewpoint on manhood and fatherhood I invite you to visit these sites from my blog roll. We all have different perspectives on manhood, fatherhood, family and these blog and website owners are no different. But often times we find ourselves having more in common than differences. And we can all learn something from one another. 

Enjoy your exploration of these sites.

African American Dad; Art of Manliness; Black and Married with Kids; Book Dads; Fatherhood; and Dad-o-Matic.

Comment and let me know what other online resources you frequent relating to manhood, fatherhood, parenthood, and family.

Peace,

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Where Do I Fit in the Big Scheme?

Posted by Thomas on October 6, 2011

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Change

Change is inevitable. Although we know this, it takes life events to make us know, see, and respect it. 

This year has been filled with deep personal changes. My mother-in-law, a close family member that lived with her and my grandmother died. My son graduated from high school. I achieved a special honor in my professional life. We just welcomed our newest grandchild into the family on Monday, AJ. 

Change is inevitable. Some we look forward to, some we try to avoid. 

In less than a month my son leaves for the U.S. Coast Guard—a huge change for him. He’s entering the next phase of his life—a space of greater self-reliance and accountability. He will be challenged in ways we haven’t discussed.

Questioning

With this change (the next learning experience along his rites of passage journey) comes the question. A question everyone reading this has asked “Where do I fit in the big scheme of things?” I tell him he is better off at 18 years old than I was when I was that age. But, the question is the same. It is a scary question. All of us yearn for a deep sense of place, a deep sense of belonging, of mattering. 

In a recent conversation I asked him “As you move into this next stage of your life, what is your biggest concern?” 

His answer (simplified here) “Where I fit. How will being in the military jive with who I am as a person.”  

As parents, we do our best with the tools we have to raise our children to face the world. Our hope is simple; that we’ve given them enough to answer the big question. As much as we would like otherwise they MUST answer the “Where do I fit in the big scheme of things?” question for themselves. 

The journey to “know thy self…to thy own self be true” has truly now begun for my son. 

Change the World Answer the Question

Son I love you! I am proud of you! I’ve given you the best (and sometimes the worst) of me. Now, go change the world—answering the big question along the way! 

Peace,

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