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A People’s Persistence Produce a President

Posted by Thomas on November 6, 2012

GO OUT AND VOTE TODAY IF YOU HAVE NOT DONE SO ALREADY!

I have left this post as my front page because of this election season. Your voice MUST BE HEARD! Election day November 6, 2012.

(Update: This post, I believe, is a testament to the power of guiding our young men. Keep doing what YOU ARE DOING. You can never really tell how far-reaching your efforts will go.)

Black, white, super-rich or working class, male, female; regardless of race or the hemisphere in which we live, our global mind drank its fill of history this week. A people’s persistence put a man, of African ancestry, into the highest political office of the United States of America. A people’s persistence: composed of various heritages, not just African; accomplished this. Like you, I am filled. Like you, many thoughts raced through my mind. My question—as the dust settles from this incredible political and historical whirlwind—what if this half-black half-white boy named Barack: abandoned by his African father, was not embraced by the balance of his family?

Many boys, especially black boys, don’t ever recover from their father’s abandonment. In Barack’s life, another force filled the fracture; white mother, grandfather, grandmother saved a boy’s life; and taught him; and changed a world. Their effort epitomizes the Rites of Passage Program. Saving boys’ lives changes the world for good. Saving boys’ lives rears responsible young adults. Saving boys’ lives produces adult men ready to lead. Saving boys’ lives gives women capable men to marry. Saving boys’ lives gives children a present touchable father. Saving boys’ lives renders examples for other young men to follow; yields aspiration in the hearts of those nearly crushed by “impossibilities”; causes young ladies to say “I’ll marry a man like my father”. Saving boys’ lives unbolts hope’s vault; that hope infects all. Our world has been lifted to unparalleled plateaus, grand levels of togetherness, joy, and deeply profound inspiration. God, again, has shown us all how the life of one boy, when guided and guarded; loved and cherished; admonished and praised; honored and honed, impacts our interconnectedness. One affecting all.

You have one among you, do you not? Your son: nephew, neighbor’s boy, grandson, a friend’s boy, the single mom’s boy within your congregation, the boy in the homeless shelter or in the juvenile program, the boy that looks like you and the boy that doesn’t, the boy that causes you pause and makes you take a deep breath, the boy with the lost look because no one has taught him how to be a man. You know the boy of whom I speak, maybe, like me, he once was you. You see him daily in the mirrors of your home; his reflection sometimes haunting.

You know him and see him. Embrace a Rites of Passage Program saving a boy; who knows, that boy may change the world—President Obama has.

Peace,

(updated 11/6/12)
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Rites of Passage Resources for Parents

Posted by Thomas on October 31, 2011

Before you continue: This post has 224 words – on average it will take you less than 3 minutes to read.

The journey of researching the topic of a rites of passage program began when my son was in elementary school. He’s now a young adult entering the military. 

My first publication offering my thoughts on the topic is available in the free eBook A Rites of Passage Framework. In it I offer four key components for your consideration as you conduct your own research. A Rites of Passage Framework is a quick read and is meant to give you actionable steps you can take immediately to design your customized rites of passage program for your son or boy in your life. 

The considerations I offer are my perspective based on personal research and individual conversations with fathers and men I respect and others that have offered their thoughts on the subject. 

After downloading your free copy of A Rites of Passage Framework I invite you to the following websites as you continue your search. Please also share your journey. Come back often and comment on posts or use the contact page to reach me. 

Widely cited source of information: the National Rites of Passage Institute

A site originally created by Drexel University students in 2001: Rites of Passage

Lesson plan for teaching a rites of passage program in a school setting

Family Foundations frames a rites of passage in the context of blessings. 

Peace,

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