Boys' Rites of Passage

Our Sons' Futures

Corrective Discipline with Teen Boys

Posted by Thomas on January 12, 2012

I am now a Big Brother with the Big Brother Big Sisters organization. Because of the things I’ve done with my son and his rites of passage training I also have a family member that has diligently asked that I take time up with her son. Both of the young men have tried the patience of their parents and family over the last month. Being disrespectful, storming out of the house, throwing things–their behavior has been such that with each boy in separate incidences the police were called.

How do you get adolescent boys to line up straight? How do we as the loving, caring, and concerned adults in their lives deliver corrective discipline?

Over several weeks now as I’ve heard each exhausted mother explain the issues and situations they have dealt with their sons I considered my own. The problems they are experiencing I did not while raising my son. As a concerned male figure in both of these young men’s lives I need to find my role. They are not my children–BUT–I am a part of their Village. I’ve been challenged to find the balance of discipline and guidance as a Village member. These situations have also made me think about some of the corrective discipline actions I’ve taken with my own son through the years (actions some around me called outrageous at the time).

What are your thoughts? If you are a Village member in the life of a teen boy who is displaying undesired behavior how have you handled it?



2 Responses to “Corrective Discipline with Teen Boys”

  1. Thomas said

    Hi Lori! I am humbled that you have taken the time to visit the site and comment. Thank you! Your insight is on point–be clear inside first–as caring adults we struggle with that part; thus struggle with assisting/guiding our young people appropriately.


  2. Lori Bitar said

    Simply put…be clear inside first…you can’t give away what you don’t have…and my success has been with honesty and constant affirmation of their worth. Had some good luck with this! I also keep it at the forefront of my awareness that teen hormones are a POWERFUL force and NONE of the kids going through these chemical reactions WANT to act like they do or feel the way they do.

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