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How to Guide Your Child to their Excellent Self

Posted by Thomas on October 24, 2011

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Parenting is tough. We (parents) want the best for our children. Often times what is best for our children (from our perspective as parents) doesn’t mesh with what our children see as best for themselves. 

These misaligned views can cause friction or out-right blow-outs between parents and young adults.

The magic I’ve used with my own son to ward off such potential confrontations is to remember what I was like as a young adult (teen in the context of this discussion).

If we (parents) can humble ourselves and be honest with our children we can see things from their side of the equation (because we used to be them). Parenting can be tough because we (parents) want to impose or project onto our child our vision of them.

A better space from which to handle our children, I believe, is to expose them to as much as possible (through education, life experiences, interaction with other caring adults, volunteer opportunities, academic opportunities etc.) The point of the constant exposure to many things is to open up the world to them. Through this openness the child discovers something they are passionate about.

Once that passion has been identified it is then up to us (parents) to nurture our child to be their excellent self in that space of passion.

In other words, it’s okay if your son (or daughter for the moms reading) doesn’t turn out to be a mini-me.

Peace,

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3 Responses to “How to Guide Your Child to their Excellent Self”

  1. Thomas said

    Thanks for stopping by. Visit often. Download the ebook A Rites of Passage Framework and share it with your network.

  2. Site Admin said

    Thanks for visiting. I look forward to dropping by your blog also.

  3. Enigma said

    Good post!

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