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Why a Woman Cannot Teach a Boy the Intricacies of Growing into Manhood

Posted by Thomas on October 24, 2009

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In my twenties (I am forty in less than a year) I wanted five children. With two boys, I looked forward to having a baby girl. When that never happened, I often longed for a daughter and wondered why God held back.

Fast forward to the present; I consider all the people I know with daughters of various ages and I realize if I had daughter(s) as a single dad, I would have struggled tremendously. Example: I have a friend and when her daughter went through the first stages of getting her menstrual cycle the girl cried, cramped, and was completely unbearable to be around (hormones and all). Her mother, as a woman, innately related. As a man, I would have been useless to her.

That holds true for women raising boys (without a man). There are things females genuinely do not understand when it comes to males.

Example: when the 13 year old boy is standing at the school bus stop; sees the girl that he has a mad crush on; gets an erection; realizes he doesn’t have any underwear on; and has to cover himself with his book-bag to hide his embarrassment—a woman doesn’t understand. His mother asks something like “that happened just by looking at the girl?” His father says, “Boy, put some drawers on” and leaves it at that, because he knows that erection is one of countless to occur throughout the day.

The boy’s mother says “boy, what in the hell is wrong with you?” because he appears to be filled with anger, confusion, and the desire to “destroy” things. His father sees those outputs as excess energy needing direction; i.e., some sport. Dad knows—he has been there.

Learning manhood involves so many things. Mom teaches: respect, politeness, how to treat a woman, how to wash and iron clothes, and more—all needed skills. Only a man can teach a boy what it takes to keep one’s body under control: his anger and his sexuality. Those things for an adolescent male are more important than having on clean socks and pressed slacks.

Fathers and mothers both have vital roles to play in raising boys. Thankfully, we (dads and moms) fill in the gap for what may be lacking in the other.

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2 Responses to “Why a Woman Cannot Teach a Boy the Intricacies of Growing into Manhood”

  1. Rites Inc. said

    Thanks for the comment.

    Dads teach daughters practical things like how a man ought to treat them. He shows that by example while dealing with the mother. Don’t get me wrong, moms teach boys many needful things; dads do the same for girls. But some things are better man-to-man and woman-to-woman.

  2. gin_sella said

    Made me laugh man. but can’t help wondering what use you think men might be in bringing up daughters!???

    🙂

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