Boys' Rites of Passage

Our Sons' Futures

What Manhood Means to Me

Posted by ritesguest on February 14, 2009

What Manhood Means to Me

(By guest blogger Greta Smith)


What is the true measure of a man? It is a common question that has many answers from various viewpoints. In today’s society, the world’s opinion of manhood is often at odds with Christian principles; there is much confusion on what makes a ‘real’ man. With so many broken homes, women have had to take the responsibility of guiding young boys to manhood; without a father figure or role model, the journey into manhood is often difficult and painful.


As a woman, my viewpoint of manhood comes from both my father and brother, who happen to be gospel ministers. In these two men, manhood is conveyed through honesty, courage, compassion, integrity, faithfulness, and responsibility. These character traits are an inescapable part of the adult experience. As young Christian men, you will be called out into the world as witnesses for Christ, and these traits will help you to relate to unbelievers who will look to you for encouragement. These traits will help you to stand your ground when no one will stand with you. They will give you courage to remain sexually pure when the world says it is okay to have sex before marriage. These traits will also allow you to be a leader in your home, community, and church.


The transition from boy to man can be both exciting and frightening. It is a time for decision making and personal responsibilities. There are, however, a few things you must do to successfully make the transition:

  1. Ask questions.  The only dumb question is the one that wasn’t asked.
  2. Work hard.  When you think you’ve worked your hardest- work harder.
  3. Admit your weaknesses.  The strong and silent act only makes you more vulnerable.
  4. Be honest with yourself. Admitting that you need help is okay.
  5. Find a mentor. Everybody needs someone to talk to and gain wisdom from.


Becoming a man is a conscious decision. It can be difficult and mistakes will be made. Learn from those mistakes, pressing on. Men are not made overnight. To those seeking their true measure of manhood, pray often.


(Gigi is an avid reader, writer, and is a member of the a’cappella group True Fidelity out of Wichita Falls, TX)



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